Believe in the Power of Your Dreams: What is the “Why” Behind Your Dreams?

believeby D’vorah Lansky
As the new year approaches I’m looking at how I can bring even more value to our author community. Every fiber of my being is leading me towards focusing on helping you to develop relationships with your audience and leaders in your field before focusing on the tech side of things. I really believe that by getting clear about your “why” and your dreams and by growing your following, your fan base, and your book sales, you will turbo charge your success.While learning the “hows” is important, understanding the “whys” is even more important, in growing a successful business and following.

Upon reflection, I realize that I tend to focus on the technology and “how” first. As we enter the coming year, I have made a commitment to focus on the “why”, “dreams”, “relationship building” and “platform” first as these form the foundation of a successful business. From there focusing on technology will be in context and there will be an eager audience already in place to participate in our offerings.

Achieving your dream begins with having a burning “why.”

A key component for achieving your dreams is for you to have a huge, “why”. Give some thought to what your “why” is.  Is it to build the home of your dreams or take care of your elderly parents?  Is it to send your children to college or be able to travel across the globe?  Is it to make a difference in the world by bringing awareness to a specific cause or to help raise funds to rectify injustices? There is no limit to what we can accomplish if we have a big enough “why”.  Do you believe in your “why”, your dream, your mission, with unfailing determination and passion?

Action Step

Take some time to sit quietly and write about your “Why”. What is your “Why” for wanting more success in your life?  Drill deeper, keep asking yourself, “why” after each response until you get to the core “why”.  It’s like peeling an onion.  The deeper you go, the more powerful your “why”.  If your “why” is strong enough, nothing will get in your way for accomplishing your goals and dreams!

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What are your thoughts about this? Scroll down to join in this week’s conversation and commenting contest, by sharing your thoughts, questions, and responses to other comments and ideas. Here’s to much happiness and success as you achieve your dreams by focusing on your “why!”

Comments

  1. We wrote our book because young (and older!) readers need a contemporary hero.

  2. D’vorah you are right in asking about the why before the how.As a young writer l have pondered on it myself because your burning desire to write and put that message out must be the driving force for one’s eventual success.In fact that is the foundation on which every writer’s career is set upon. If it is big enough it will drive your ambition high even in the midst of rejection but if on the other hand it is small one’s drive for success is already determined. Dwelling on the how is like putting the cart before the horse.It is very imperative to discover the why which is our driving passion than the how because once you discover the why is like you are half way there and just need a little push on the how to get there.The how now becomes one’s vehicle for navigating to the destination of the why.

  3. Greta says:

    Interesting question: why? The message I’ve been hearing all month in various ways was well said by Rick Warren, my pastor. He said, “Let go of the good to make room for the great.” In order to know what “great” is, I think you have to ask the question you posed in your post. Why? Why do I do what I do?

    I’ve been honing, refining, and clarifying all month and believe I’ve arrived at the essence of my personal message: If you don’t like your story, rewrite it! Whether I’m writing for clients, magazine articles, or fiction, that message seems to sneak in one way or another.

    My published work is a self-help book for those wanting to rewrite their health. The novel I am shopping around is about a woman who must accept her particular gift to change her circumstances. (Her circumstances include mid-life crisis, empty nest, and all kinds of fun murder and mayhem.)

    My goal in 2015 is to analyze before I say yes. Is this project a great fit for me or am I merely doing it because it sounds good? Thanks for your thoughts on the topic. I’m going to be asking why a lot more next year.

    • I feel as though you have targeted a great subject matter to write about. People are hungry for direction. By aligning with real, present day challenges then you are able to guide people through challenging situations.

  4. There are many facets to my Niche, each with its own unique “Why”. One of my whys’ is to empower the masses to be a part of the Green Revolution to Restore a Sustainable Earth. As a result I wrote a book, Align With The Wild. Transparency about Industrial Revolution lifestyle dictates led me on an unexpected journey into the Heart. Chapter three delves into the rapid human evolutionary process towards Heart-Centered Consciousness.

    When you are able to shift your awareness to the heart center then you are better able to align with spirit and the mysteries of the Universe. Allowing Universals Spirit to guide your path provides a sustainable power to transform yourself to thrive in every moment.

    In essence: my love of nature drove me to write a book. My hunger for understanding guided me to research information on human evolution and heart-centered consciousness. Creating a powerpoint presentation used at a talk at a local church exposed me to people eager to learn about aligning with the Universal power.

    Take the challenge to find your why and allow the momentum to guide your path to thrive.

  5. What’s my WHY?

    When I walked my granddaughter through the halls to her kindergarten class with a smile on my face and my bald head, there were a lot of comments and questions. I could see my granddaughter, who has decided she likes me better without hair than with hair, was getting uncomfortable.

    I answered questions and soon had a flock of children clambering for attention until the bell rang and they had to run to their classrooms. This, I thought, will be a great opportunity to teach. I went to the office and said I wanted an all school assembly on the topic of hair loss and bullying. Whoda thunk it…they said yes and a week later I spoke to the entire elementary school. I asked my granddaughter to stand up and tell her school the name of why her Yia Yia has no hair. She did. I had the whole school repeat the word.

    “What?” I said cupping my ears.
    “AL LOW PEE (giggle giggle) SHUH,” they shouted.
    “Oh, come on, I said, you can do better than that!”

    They shouted it again and I started asking questions. Had anybody in their family lost some or all of their hair? Did they know why?

    There were many responses, among them cancer therapies.

    I talked about alopecia and what it did to get rid of hair and keep it from growing back in kid friendly terms. We talked and laughed and I told a story and hands went up all over the room. Their interest was intense and the level of involvement enormous. I was surprised and happy and knew this was something I could really have fun with.

    At the end I asked them, “Who am I?”
    “Jordyn’s Yia Yia!”

    Where’s Jordyn? I had her stand up again. Everybody was telling her how cool her grandmother was – a delightful perk for me!

    After that, Jordyn was the most famous kindergartener in the school and whenever I walked her to her classroom kids called out in the hallway.

    “Hello Jordyn’s Gramma! I remember you. You have AL LOW PEE SHAH!”

    And I waved back and said, “I remember you too. You were in the assembly!”

    It was lovely. The entire school had a new perspective. Kids with hair loss were treated with knowledgeable interest and respect.

    What surprised me even more and completely melted my heart was what happened the first time I walked Jordyn into her first grade class the following September.

    “Hello Jordyn’s Gramma! I remember you. You have AL LOW PEE SHAH!”

    And I waved back and said, “I remember you too. You were in the assembly!”

    *sigh* I do so love being bald.

    What’s my WHY?

    The why behind the why behind all the whys is this: the more comfortable women facing hair loss are in their own skins – whatever the reason – for that loss, the more happy and confident and joyous they will be. The happier, more confident and more joyous bald women are, the more comfortable people will be around them and the faster seeing bald women in any circumstance will become just another facet of the norm.

    And I, Pam Fitros, comfortably and happily permanently bald, author of Boldly Bald Women, grandmother of a child who likes me better without hair than with, want to be part of bringing bald women out of the shadows of fear and shame and into the light of joy reclaimed.

  6. What’s my WHY?

    When I walked my granddaughter through the halls to her kindergarten class with a smile on my face and my bald head, there were a lot of comments and questions. I could see my granddaughter, who has decided she likes me better without hair than with hair, was getting uncomfortable.

    I answered questions and soon had a flock of children clambering for attention until the bell rang and they had to run to their classrooms. This, I thought, will be a great opportunity to teach. I went to the office and said I wanted an all school assembly on the topic of hair loss and bullying. Whoda thunk it…they said yes and a week later I spoke to the entire elementary school. I asked my granddaughter to stand up and tell her school the name of why her Yia Yia has no hair. She did. I had the whole school repeat the word.

    “What?” I said cupping my ears.
    “AL LOW PEE (giggle giggle) SHUH,” they shouted.
    “Oh, come on, I said, you can do better than that!”

    They shouted it again and I started asking questions. Had anybody in their family lost some or all of their hair? Did they know why?

    There were many responses, among them cancer therapies.

    I talked about alopecia and what it did to get rid of hair and keep it from growing back in kid friendly terms. We talked and laughed and I told a story and hands went up all over the room. Their interest was intense and the level of involvement enormous. I was surprised and happy and knew this was something I could really have fun with.

    At the end I asked them, “Who am I?”
    “Jordyn’s Yia Yia!”

    Where’s Jordyn? I had her stand up again. Everybody was telling her how cool her grandmother was – a delightful perk for me!

    After that, Jordyn was the most famous kindergartener in the school and whenever I walked her to her classroom kids called out in the hallway.

    “Hello Jordyn’s Gramma! I remember you. You have AL LOW PEE SHAH!”

    And I waved back and said, “I remember you too. You were in the assembly!”

    It was lovely. The entire school had a new perspective. Kids with hair loss were treated with knowledgeable interest and respect.

    What surprised me even more and completely melted my heart was what happened the first time I walked Jordyn into her first grade class the following September.

    “Hello Jordyn’s Gramma! I remember you. You have AL LOW PEE SHAH!”

    And I waved back and said, “I remember you too. You were in the assembly!”

    *sigh* I do so love being bald.

    What’s my WHY?

    The why behind the why behind all the whys is this: the more comfortable women facing hair loss are in their own skins – whatever the reason for that loss, the more happy and confident and joyous they will be. The happier, more confident and more joyous bald women are, the more comfortable people will be around them and the faster seeing bald women in any circumstance will become just another facet of the norm.

    And I, Pam Fitros, comfortably and happily permanently bald, author of Boldly Bald Women, grandmother of a child who likes me better without hair than with, want to be part of bringing bald women out of the shadows of fear and shame and into the light of joy reclaimed.

  7. Irene Morgan says:

    I have more than one “why” for writing.

    I write because I love to write. I need to be creative, imaginative and intuitive. Coming up with ideas, playing with them in my head till I find a way to use them, and then honing them as I write so they become clear, focused and inspirational to the readers is a wonderfully satisfying exercise in creativity for me.

    I write because I have all this “stuff” inside me that can help others. I have only ever been inside my own head, so perhaps everyone has just as much “stuff.” But there is so much of it and I feel the strong need to share it in the most helpful way possible. All the abilities, knowledge, skills, learning and experience I have gained in 68 years on this planet are all there for one purpose – so that I can “let them all out” in ways that will inspire, help, motivate and yes, teach others. That is not only my reason for writing, it is my reason for being.

    And yes, I write because it would be lovely to be able to help my family financially, and be absolutely sure that at no point in the future will I become a burden to them.

  8. What is my WHY? Is SHARING considered a WHY? Is a desire to make a difference my WHY? I am searching for the magic bridge that will take me from where I am now to the vision I see for future self… as a (paid) public speaker… but I am still at a loss as to what it is I see myself speaking about. I want to be more than just one more motivational coach… or one more life coach. I am searching for what is unique to ME that others want to hear. If I had the funds, I’d hire other coaches to guide me, but I don’t. I keep listening to webinars, podcasts, YouTube videos, and read all the newsletters I’ve subscribed to from other coaches. However, if I spend all my time reading and listening to how everyone else is doing the things I desire to do, how will I get there? How much more research to I need to do in order to discover my niche?

  9. It is so powerful to read your comments. It seems like many of us are reflecting on what we are wanting to create in the coming year.

    Once you have your “why” the next step is to focus on setting goals and action steps for achieving your why.

    Something to consider is, “what can you do differently in the coming year, to assist you in getting what you deserve and desire?”

  10. Keep helping people and you’ll get everything you desire in life.

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